YOU are the beholder...

Hanging out with a few friends, some years ago, had one of them saying to the group ‘’whatever you guys are eating, you really need to give Alvin some.’’ We all laughed over that line, but deep inside me, I felt terrible, if not embarrassed, because he had simply fired up my misery some eons into space. I was really scrawny back in the day, and had always wanted to add some weight and look fresher, but yet, even in that sorry state I thought I was in, how some babes still thought I was cool back then, still remains unfathomable and worse still the ‘’I liked the way you used to look’’ line these days, just baffles the Gulliver out of my travels.

I should be ME enough to love my body size, if I am certain that is my preferred size, I look good that way, and not have society dictate to me, what is acceptable. Of course there is the ready excuse of health. Are we saying that there are no more chubby, yet healthy people? Chubby but fit people?

Slim is not necessarily fit and healthy, just like chubby is not necessarily unfit and unhealthy. You can be slim, sick and unhealthy, same way you can be chubby, fit and healthy. I have met very smart, healthy big-bodied individuals. I saw a friend recently, whom I thought really used to look good and fresh back in the day, looking like a scarecrow all in a bid to fit in. I did not utter a word, but I’m sure my shocked expression must have given something away. Unless there is a clear health and fitness threat posed by your body size, then one might need to check it.

Early 2014

Most Recent ( 20th February 2017)

Do not lose the essence of who you truly are or should be, because of wanting to meet up to standards set by society. I rather strive to stay healthy than please society by looking all ghostly because of the need to fit it and be accepted.

We live in a society where being on the generous side of body size has a sudden, forced stigmatization attempt, a clampdown of sorts. Ironically, the same folks that tell you how slim you are and why you should add some flesh, will tell you, Ol boy watch your weight, and when you drop some, they want to know if you were or are sick? (From recent experience)

HOW DID WE GET HERE?

The reflection you see in the mirror is going to look distorted because of societal demands, all the magazine and media based ideas of what "looking handsome or beautiful" is.

I am not sure I care what the media or magazines say it is, when they are all airbrushed and unrealistic bodies to maintain.

YOU are the beholder

No matter the flaws you consider, the stretch marks, the cellulite, the scars, the pimples... That doesn't define what an amazing, impactful being you are, and can be.

I urge everyone to stop trying to conform to particular beauty standards and body types. Forget them and rather focus on you and your happiness.

I'm here to celebrate it all, stretch marks, cellulite and everything else.

Mirror, mirror on the wall, I do not hear how you pick on my flaws, I care not what you think of me. I give you no power at all. I am much more than you can see.

Love yourself good and handsome/beautiful, at any size and in any damn angle ❤