Hanging out with a few friends, some years ago, had one of them saying to
the group ‘’whatever you guys are eating, you really need to give Alvin some.’’
We all laughed over that line, but deep inside me, I felt terrible, if not embarrassed,
because he had simply fired up my misery some eons into space. I was really
scrawny back in the day, and had always wanted to add some weight and look
fresher, but yet, even in that sorry state I thought I was in, how some babes
still thought I was cool back then, still remains unfathomable and worse still
the ‘’I liked the way you used to look’’ line these days, just baffles the
Gulliver out of my travels.
I should be ME enough to love my body size, if I am certain that is my
preferred size, I look good that way, and not have society dictate to me, what
is acceptable. Of course there is the ready excuse of health. Are we saying that
there are no more chubby, yet healthy people? Chubby but fit people?
Slim is not necessarily fit and healthy, just like chubby is not necessarily
unfit and unhealthy. You can be slim, sick and unhealthy, same way you can be
chubby, fit and healthy. I have met very smart, healthy big-bodied individuals.
I saw a friend recently, whom I thought really used to look good and fresh back
in the day, looking like a scarecrow all in a bid to fit in. I did not utter a
word, but I’m sure my shocked expression must have given something away. Unless
there is a clear health and fitness threat posed by your body size, then one
might need to check it.
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| Early 2014 |
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| Most Recent ( 20th February 2017) |
Do not lose the essence of who you truly are or should be, because of wanting to meet up to standards set by society. I rather strive to stay healthy than please society by looking all ghostly because of the need to fit it and be accepted.
We live in a society where being on the generous side of body size has a
sudden, forced stigmatization attempt, a clampdown of sorts. Ironically, the
same folks that tell you how slim you are and why you should add some flesh,
will tell you, Ol boy watch your weight, and when you drop some, they want to
know if you were or are sick? (From recent experience)
HOW DID WE GET HERE?
The reflection you see in the mirror is going to look distorted because of
societal demands, all the magazine and media based ideas of what "looking handsome
or beautiful" is.
I am not sure I care what the media or magazines say it is, when they are
all airbrushed and unrealistic bodies to maintain.
YOU are the beholder
No matter the flaws you consider, the stretch marks, the cellulite, the
scars, the pimples... That doesn't define what an amazing, impactful being you
are, and can be.
I urge everyone to stop trying to conform to particular beauty standards
and body types. Forget them and rather focus on you and your happiness.
I'm here to celebrate it all, stretch marks, cellulite and everything else.
Mirror, mirror on the wall, I do not hear how you pick on my flaws, I care
not what you think of me. I give you no power at all. I am much more than you
can see.
Love yourself good and handsome/beautiful, at any size and in any damn
angle ❤
