#IamTheChange

''...I IDENTIFY what needs to change,  THINK of how to change it, change my ATTITUDE,  then TRANSFORM into that which I seek to change.." - #EAI ®©

                                                                #IamTheChange

YOU are the beholder...

Hanging out with a few friends, some years ago, had one of them saying to the group ‘’whatever you guys are eating, you really need to give Alvin some.’’ We all laughed over that line, but deep inside me, I felt terrible, if not embarrassed, because he had simply fired up my misery some eons into space. I was really scrawny back in the day, and had always wanted to add some weight and look fresher, but yet, even in that sorry state I thought I was in, how some babes still thought I was cool back then, still remains unfathomable and worse still the ‘’I liked the way you used to look’’ line these days, just baffles the Gulliver out of my travels.

I should be ME enough to love my body size, if I am certain that is my preferred size, I look good that way, and not have society dictate to me, what is acceptable. Of course there is the ready excuse of health. Are we saying that there are no more chubby, yet healthy people? Chubby but fit people?

Slim is not necessarily fit and healthy, just like chubby is not necessarily unfit and unhealthy. You can be slim, sick and unhealthy, same way you can be chubby, fit and healthy. I have met very smart, healthy big-bodied individuals. I saw a friend recently, whom I thought really used to look good and fresh back in the day, looking like a scarecrow all in a bid to fit in. I did not utter a word, but I’m sure my shocked expression must have given something away. Unless there is a clear health and fitness threat posed by your body size, then one might need to check it.

Early 2014

Most Recent ( 20th February 2017)

Do not lose the essence of who you truly are or should be, because of wanting to meet up to standards set by society. I rather strive to stay healthy than please society by looking all ghostly because of the need to fit it and be accepted.

We live in a society where being on the generous side of body size has a sudden, forced stigmatization attempt, a clampdown of sorts. Ironically, the same folks that tell you how slim you are and why you should add some flesh, will tell you, Ol boy watch your weight, and when you drop some, they want to know if you were or are sick? (From recent experience)

HOW DID WE GET HERE?

The reflection you see in the mirror is going to look distorted because of societal demands, all the magazine and media based ideas of what "looking handsome or beautiful" is.

I am not sure I care what the media or magazines say it is, when they are all airbrushed and unrealistic bodies to maintain.

YOU are the beholder

No matter the flaws you consider, the stretch marks, the cellulite, the scars, the pimples... That doesn't define what an amazing, impactful being you are, and can be.

I urge everyone to stop trying to conform to particular beauty standards and body types. Forget them and rather focus on you and your happiness.

I'm here to celebrate it all, stretch marks, cellulite and everything else.

Mirror, mirror on the wall, I do not hear how you pick on my flaws, I care not what you think of me. I give you no power at all. I am much more than you can see.

Love yourself good and handsome/beautiful, at any size and in any damn angle ❤

Another year of gratitude...

I remind myself every year on this special day how blessed I am to have been given another year to experience the wonders of this beautiful world! 

My birthday is a day I reflect, cherish and love. I believe that I am the equivalent of fine wine or delicious cheese. The older the better. I am thrilled to be another year older and wiser today.

Like the song says: ‘Live your life with arms wide open, Today is where your book begins, The rest is still unwritten.’

Someday, I will tell the beautiful story of how human "expectations" were defied to write an emerging beautiful story. 

God already made the way, inspite of me: It is called GRACE

Like the eagle, I am free to fly!

All I can say thank you Jesus!!!

What you tell yourself is so POWERFUL!

When you don't love yourself you try to fill yourself up with sex, drugs, and food until that "void" you are trying to fill spills out and it goes into your relationships.

For the longest time I personally was victimized by the Frankenstein of my life... ME! 😂

I had quietly told myself several times: ‘’…You aren't good enough as you think you are.’’

You'll never feel confident enough, No one will ever love you, No one will accept you just as you are, You will always be the friend that would never check up on others, bla, bla, bla…

Does that sound like you too?

What I learned is that, what you tell yourself is so POWERFUL! 😱

So if you think you are any of those things, you are RIGHT. What you tell yourself out loud or in your mind is what your heart hears and it tells your brain what to say…Change your "I AM"

Start practicing your "I AM' s" and leave all the self-doubt, swipe right to all that negative self-talk and rather Choose to love yourself faultlessly!!!



I went through this motions too ... doubts in my head and a voice telling me to stay in my comfort zone since I wasn’t good enough ... BUT when I broke that vicious circle, I realized I could reach everything. Learn to fight for you, like I did for me... All the best to you!

The sun will rise and set regardless...

The sun will rise and set regardless, so what you end up choosing to do with your "light" is up to you.
But you are still living in your "cage". No one keeps you there but you. You totally forgot that, that cage has had its door wide open for years.
Stop letting yourself be locked up from things, people, bad experiences, fear etc. fully cut ties with it once and for all.
No longer give permission to let "residual moments" hold your life captive and live rent free in your amazing soul.

Being normal and safe is kind of boring. Yes, it's a "easy walk" but flowers don't grow that way. Flowers grow when rained on and they survive Nigeria's hottest sunlight and the most crazy storms, so do we.

Trust what you've gone through

Do you ever feel like why did this happen to me or why does it continue to happen? I do.

But I want you to realize that whatever situation you went through or are going through right now, it's all for a big reason and honestly, some of those reasons, I have fully come to appreciate, embrace and accept. It was for my good.

Whatever has happened or continues to happen is part of your story so you can share it with others.

Think about your situation or a situation that has happened in the past and how many other people you were able to help because of it!

And always remember that ANY situation is a moment of your life, not your entire life unless you make it that way.

Choose to use what you have been through to inspire someone that is going through, and let them know that they aren't alone.

Trust what you've gone through

Do you ever feel like why did this happen to me or why does it continue to happen? I do.

But I want you to realize that whatever situation you went through or are going through right now, it's all for a big reason and honestly, some of those reasons, I have fully come to appreciate, embrace and accept. It was for my good.

Whatever has happened or continues to happen is part of your story so you can share it with others.

Think about your situation or a situation that has happened in the past and how many other people you were able to help because of it!

And always remember that ANY situation is a moment of your life, not your entire life unless you make it that way.

Choose to use what you have been through to inspire someone that is going through, and let them know that they aren't alone.